Kids

For being someone who has never wanted kids, I sure do get this unfamiliar strong feeling well up inside of me when it comes to two very special girls. I never imagined that kids could make me feel so much love, satisfaction, happiness, and protective! It's unchartered territory, but I think I like it =)

How to handle the ex-wfe... HELP!

I'm brand new with this experience. The man I've been dating for the past year is divorced and has 2 children with his ex-wife. The only thing I've ever been frustrated with in this relationship has been her. I'm not positive my frustrations are justifiable, or if I'm just being insecure. Over the past month with the little one being in the hospital, I feel like they talk and communicate more than he talks to me. I know the communication between them is necessary, b/c they are the parents, and I am not, but I don't think I should be left out of the loop either. It would be so much easier if she were a nice person, but unfortunately she is not. She throws fits, screams, cries, and threatens to get her way. She is not respectful towards J whatsoever, and does not follow any of the court-ordered mandates dealing with who gets the kids when, while J follows them to a "T". I just wish he wouldn't let her run over him so much, and abuse her priviledges. I feel she uses him, and knows she can get whatever she wants because he gives in just to keep the peace. That's important for the kids, I know, but what kind of behavior patterns does that teach them? And can I deal with this for another 10-15 years? I have voiced my feelings and concerns to J once or twice, but I still get so frustrated, b/c nothing has changed. We can hardly enjoy a day of peace together without calls or texts from her. I just keep quiet for the most part, but I think that's about to end. I know if I start acting like her, it won't solve anything either. So, I'm caught in a tight place, trying to maintain a good balance and navigate through this delicate situation without drowning, or being drowned.